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I suffer from Relationship-Phobia.  Do you? 

I suffer from Relationship-Phobia.  Do you?

昨晚跟几个朋友开MSN扯到凌晨,均不约而同地大叹-------害怕结婚。 有人说婚姻是束缚,仿佛是往脚上套50磅的铅球和铁链。 有人说婚姻是错误,只不过错的程度不同而已。 说实话,且不要说结婚,我连交往都感到害怕。 这里的"害怕"并非指物理上的惊慌和畏惧,而是心理上的不安定因素。 借着一杯冰酒,我分析了一下,发觉根本的原因有两点: #1 我太自私。 #2 尚未遇见对的人。 早已习惯,并喜爱自由在在,无牵无挂的生活方式。总是跟朋友说: Single Life is AWESOME.  Do anything I want, go anywhere I want.  Does it get much better than this? 这句话并非借口或者掩饰。因为事实就是如此。 一旦介入了某个关系,一旦跟谁开始交往,立刻会背上各种各样的责任-----that is, if you are a responsible individual.  而目前我肩头的担子已经够重了,实在不想再为了谁谁谁而负责,为了谁谁谁做出任何程度的改变。Simply put, I refuse to compromise my life style for anyone. 当然,如果你选择不负责任,那是你的哲学。That's another dicussion for another day, and not with me, as I fundamentally disagree. 可潜意识里我仍旧相信。 如果遇到了那个对的人。 如果遇到了那个对的人,那也许我不再会觉得Relationship是一种负担。也许我会出于主观意愿,为了她而改变 / 改善自己。 So now what?  Keep on waiting for the Right One?  Until then, enjoy Single Life as is, and love every minute of it? Sounds like a pretty solid plan to me.
王小虎-没那么简单
roamy findying roamy came along roamy there's something about roamy lmao u come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly dude, i wish some day, an imperfect person shall be perceived as perfect from ur perspective

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preach on, bro. Love is not about satisfying your own need and expectation, it's more about loving, serving, caring your other half from his or her perspective. it's not self-centered, but other-centered. sounds very idealistic, but only this kind of loving relationship can last.
it is all about age.
[quote]引用第4楼cloud_zhou于2011-03-06 22:56发表的  : it is all about age.  [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6645647][img]p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] i have a motion people indulge themselves with regular intercourse shall not be entitled the right of speaking here ... lol
[quote]引用第1楼刘氓于2011-03-06 18:22发表的 : 王小虎-没那么简单 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6644141][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] 楼主讲的一堆也没你的一句话简练明了。
[quote]引用第1楼刘氓于2011-03-06 18:22发表的 : 王小虎-没那么简单 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6644141][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] [quote]引用第6楼l红颜祸水于2011-03-07 00:01发表的 : 楼主讲的一堆也没你的一句话简练明了。 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6645812][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] Enlighten me.
哇。。好久没见楼主在这个板上混了。。。 突然一出现就发这么有哲理的帖子,佩服佩服
[quote]引用第8楼metrotown于2011-03-07 10:44发表的 : 哇。。好久没见楼主在这个板上混了。。。 突然一出现就发这么有哲理的帖子,佩服佩服 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6646462][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] No mockery pls, brother. Now that Spring is here, I am holding another Autoclub meet soon.  Your presence would be delightful.
人都这样 都怕孤单 都怕被人约束   如果没有打算放弃东西 那么请慎重交往 免得害人害己
[quote]引用第9楼fairladyz于2011-03-07 15:12发表的  : No mockery pls, brother. ....... [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6646794][img]p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] it was not a not mockery dude...[s:198]..I was trying to say ur post does make sense.. regarding the auto-club, probably I drive one of the crappiest car among all members.
[quote]引用第11楼metrotown于2011-03-07 20:10发表的 : it was not a not mockery dude...[s:198] ..I was trying to say ur post does make sense.. regarding the auto-club, probably I drive one of the crappiest car among all members. [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6647262][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] LOL no worries man, I was just pulling your leg re: mockery part.  The conclusion that I came up was probably naive and even laughable to some people.  But it's the best I could do, for now. As for cars.  Dude.  You don't even need to have wheels in order to show up at a meet.  This club does not require a Maserati as the ticket of entry.  If you are fond of cars, show up and you'll meet some fellow automotive enthusiasts.
恐惧感往往是自己强加给自己的,多想乐观点儿的,多看身边幸福的情侣朋友们,既然他们能做到,自己也没鸟毛问题滴
[quote]引用第1楼刘氓于2011-03-06 18:22发表的  : 王小虎-没那么简单 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6644141][img]p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] [s:200]
go with the float la
[quote]引用第13楼kickky于2011-03-08 00:23发表的 : 恐惧感往往是自己强加给自己的,多想乐观点儿的,多看身边幸福的情侣朋友们,既然他们能做到,自己也没鸟毛问题滴 [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6647729][img]/club/p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] 每次看到你的照片,脑海里只有2个字"好帥"
[quote]引用第5楼倚梦公子于2011-03-06 23:35发表的  : i have a motion people indulge themselves with regular intercourse shall not be entitled the right of speaking here ... lol ....... [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6645745][img]p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] not a good time, my friend, gotta finish up the painting for baby's room this weekend LOL, i know
[quote]引用第17楼cloud_zhou于2011-03-08 21:16发表的  : not a good time, my friend, gotta finish up the painting for baby's room this weekend ....... [url=/club/job.php?action=topost&tid=280695&pid=6655446][img]p_w_picpath/back.gif[/img][/url] [/quote] omg dude, u just blinded me by using the word "baby" oh yeah, u laugh now, when the baby actually arrives, u can talk again ... lmao
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